Wednesday, May 21, 2008

Going Grey

You probably can't tell because the videos always seem to make my hair seem dark, but I'm going grey. I have been for a while. Not big time, but enough. I decided last year to stop dying my hair. So very *S L O W L Y* my hair has been growing out and coming in grey. I have two major grey streaks on each temple and a fair amount of grey on the top of my head. My decision to just "let it be" was not an easy one. I tried many times last year to stop dying it, but I would cave in once the roots started showing. Last summer I decided to just do it and wear hats all winter so that the growing out phase wasn't as noticeable. Every so often trimming away the dyed ends. Now I am happy to say I just have a little tiny bit of color left on the ends that I will be cutting off in a month or two. Then I will have 100% natural hair. Phew.
I've enjoying the camera not showing how grey I've become. But I know that when I start shooting outside in the sun, it WILL show. My grey hair will be official.
It's been a hard transition for me, but I am determined to be natural. I don't like chemicals for starters, the fumes from the dye always bother me. Also I just want to be me. I earned these grey hairs LOL! It is who I am. Why should I try and look younger than I am? This is me. Sure I know I would look "better" with colored hair....but it wouldn't be me. All those tv shows where they try and make you look "10 years younger". It's really quite insensitive. Who cares what people on the street think? This is my stand on the issue. I really don't care how old strangers think I am. (You guys are another story :)
Seriously, I am going to accept that I'm aging and I'm not going to fight it.
The bottom line is, "It's what's inside that counts."

13 comments:

Shonna said...

I admire you so much for not being afraid to get older. Good for you! I live in San Diego, CA and I feel like there is so much pressure to look a certain way or BE a certain way. It can be really tough sometimes, but the older I get the more I am realizing that I just need to be me and not worry so much what other people think. Great post...thanks!-Shonna

tanaudel said...

Naturally grey hair, beautifully cut, is both striking and rare. Go for it!

ishthya said...

What a beautiful blog Tascha. And you're totally right, the inside counts. I'm not at a going-grey phase yet (I'm in my twenty's), but not scared of growing older. I think grey hair can be so beautiful, expecially when the person inside is beautiful. And from what I've seen on youtube and read here at your blog the last couple of weeks, I think you are a beautiful woman.

xo
Ishthya

Oh and I like your art very much!

Suzi C said...

Tascha I spent 20 years being a hairdresser. Constantly working with chemicals that made me sick and 50% of the clients were more concerned with altering the shape of their nose, rather than spending the time improving their attitude which equals no inner beauty. You have made a wise decision and believe me when I say that those that mock you for your ' natural platnium blonde' streaks have issues of their own they do not want to address. I think your simply gorgeous

Bonnie said...

I just read your thoughts on going gray. Your have managed to embrace the elegant concept of aging in a very attractive way. If everyone dealt with the notion of maturing like fine wine as you have, the world would be a better place -Thank you Tascha

Marie Greene said...

This is a beautiful post, and I absolutely agree with you. I welcome gray hair...bring it on. It's mine and I love it. It's really discouraging to see our culture obsess about youth, when aging is part of life and should be embraced and adored, not resisted. Way to go embracing your authentic hair! -Marie

Carolyn said...

I have not been brave enough to take this leap! Knowing how hard this would be I have to applaud you for doing it... I too have thought about the message shows like 10 years younger perpetuate. Not that I'm against wanting to look nice, but I don't think 'wearing your age well' is a bad thing! Our western culture is so youth obsessed... but I wouldn't go back to my twenties if you paid me! My 30's and now my early 40's have been the best years of my life!

Yay Tascha! You should paint one of your ladies with sparkling silver hair to celebrate!

Joanne said...

Hi Tascha....I love your honesty..I too am gray...started turning when I was 20 and was almost totally gray at 27..I did the dye thing for a number of years, but it was so much work, never looked natural, and on and on and on. Decided to stop dying, for alot of the reasons you mentioned and have never regretted it. Find yourself a purple-based shampoo..it will make the gray really shine!

Tammy said...

Tascha, I wish I had the courage. It is a great idea to stop the processing and fake - ness. I just don't have the courage yet. Often, I think about cutting all my hair off and starting over - it would definitely save me a lot of money - but again - I don't have the courage yet.

You are beautiful with or without gray hair.

turquoise cro said...

This winterI became curious to seeeee how I would look grey,I started letting my grey come in but it is soOOOOOo slow and my hair looked frosted but for my son's wedding Saturday I dyed it velvet brown and I'm Glad I did! Maybe I'll start once again after all the festivities!

Catherine Holman said...

Good for you! I'm going to try again sometime soon. I've tried letting the gray grow out and hate the way the roots look as they grown out because my hair is very dark. I'm tired of being a slave to hair color!
Catherine

Carol said...

Tasha, I so admire your courage. Funny how I have to use the word courage, and yet, in this day it is unfortunate that a woman has to actually have courage to be who she naturally is. I dye my hair, obsess about my weight and constantly compare myself to beautiful women. It is a horrible way to live and I am so sick of it. I am in the process of trying to leave all that garbage behind and for once in my life, love the real me. I am believing that your stand is going to be a wonderful turning point for us women. BRAVO TO YOU!!

The Imperfect Mother's Practical Advice Blog said...

Tasha: Sure I know I would look "better" with colored hair....but it wouldn't be me.

Tasha, we let too many people especially the media define what is beautiful. It's a feminist issue and we need to take back our power to define what we think is beautiful. I personally like gray hair and I have a bunch but I'm not going to dye it to make other people have the illusion that I'm better looking. --Laura